Opinion: Let girls breathe without being labeled
Since what seems like the dawn of time, women have been labeled a variety of different things, whether it is “basic,” “easy,” “fake,” “good,” “bad,” etc. This has recently become more common through the media and needs to be taken down a notch.
If a girl wants to enjoy music that is made by popular artists today, she is called uncultured. When a girl follows popular trends in fashion or in word choice, she’s known as “basic.” It is near impossible for a girl to not be made fun of for simply breathing or talking the wrong way.
Let’s get one thing straight: this is not a new concept. Men have been putting labels on women saying “women aren’t funny,” for years — or at least since 1695, when William Congreve wrote in his treatise trying to explain his views, “maybe by reason of their Natural Coldness, Humour cannot Exert itself to that extravagant Degree, which it does in the Male Sex.”
Although this has been going on for almost forever, it does not mean that it should be accepted. This doesn’t apply to every guy out there, but men constantly use the phrase, “we can’t help it; it’s just how guys think,” and it is totally invalid. People aren’t programmed to hate and make fun of others; it is a learned trait.
Small memes or comments are slowly shaping how boys treat the girls around them for doing nothing more than wearing the wrong accessory or hairstyle. A lot of Instagram or Snapchat jokes involve objectifying women. This could even be just a meme about guys only talking to girls to get with them later or to make fun of them.
Some jokes are made for shock value, which can be funny, but enough of these can start to indirectly influence the ways guys act. For example, when a guy sees a joke on his Instagram feed about a guy having five girlfriends, he may start to think it is okay. On the extreme side, some of these are white supremacists trying to spread their radical ideas, including degrading women, to young, naive teens.
“Social media and vloggers are actively laying the groundwork in white teens to turn them into alt-right/white supremacists,” [Joanna Schroeder] wrote. “It’s a system I believe is purposefully created to disillusion white boys away from progressive/liberal perspectives.”
A lot of these ideas include disrespecting women, and they discourage respecting other people as equals. They even attack chivalry. What happened to chivalry? Many say it’s dead, while others fight back saying that they just aren’t looking in the right places. While this may be true, it isn’t embraced in the places it is needed most.
Holding doors open, saying “sir” or “ma’am,” and other mannerly acts are still alive and apparent if you really look for them. These aren’t what people mean by chivalry being dead. They are talking about the general respect a man or woman has for others.
Men especially have objectified, made fun of, and bullied women for nothing more than looking a certain way. Like I said before, this has been happening for a long time. This way of acting has been glorified recently through small comments from people on shows or by politicians.
For instance, in some shows, the “popular” guys are making fun of a girl in his class and everyone starts laughing. This could make boys start thinking it’s encouraged to act this way.
In actuality, the only way to fix the problem is through understanding. Lots of men don’t even realize this is a problem because they don’t see it happening, but it is guaranteed that most of the girls in this school have experienced being unreasonably objectified or degraded for being a female.
Extremities are quickly covered up by making jokes about what has happened or using the phrase, “It’s just guys being guys.” Labeling, degrading, and altogether disrespecting women have become an unreasonable social norm that needs to be brought to an end. Understanding is the key to this. Not every man in the world participates in these acts, and some may have begun to see it happening, so there is hope, but there is still plenty of work to be done.
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Joey • Dec 2, 2019 at 5:54 pm
Its not about politics, its not about being a man, and even not about bullying. Nobody’s getting bullied. If youve ever been by a male or in a group of friends (specifically males and females) , you have probably seen females being called VSCO, gamer, fake, and so on as a joke. But if you have ever talked to anyone you can see that the reason is not to bully, its to have a good laugh along with their friends. Also there’s something that “Females” and “Males” do its called gossip. So don’t go blaming everything on males of any sex, race, mindset, or political view. Now I understand that this is an opinion post and I respect your opinion, but do one thing for me, don’t blame it on people if you’ve only seen some people do it. Either you have never talked to males or females, or you have had a problem of your own. If you are having a problem go see somebody to get some help from. Don’t go blaming another gender. Next time, before you make a claim, do some research or an experiment. I don’t mean to sound rude, but if you have seen how crazy the world is today, an opinion like this will fuel the fire. When we are old enough and we take the place of our political leaders, we want the world to change. There will be a day when us children fix the mess today’s adults have created. There will be no discrimination of race, no hating of people with different political views, no white supremacy. All the bad stuff that has been happening in today’s world will be fixed. But we cant get there if people have opinions like this, blaming the other. I’m not trying to be rude I 100% respect your opinion, but please PLEASE PLEASE! Listen to everyone, educate don’t hate. Lets fix this country and everything you mentioned about women being called things their not will likely be stopped. Remember, that we can fix this, but only if we can all except and understand each other, so don’t hate people, educate them.
Justin Spencer • Dec 3, 2019 at 8:51 am
Joseph:
Thank you for taking the time to fully respond and offer your opinion. We appreciate you reading your school paper and taking the time to respond.